Just few more weeks and then we will be in the blessed month of Ramadan all over again (in sha ALLAH). As excited I am for it to come, I am also surprised how quickly time flied by with my two little ones ma sha ALLAH.
Each individual prepares for Ramadan in their own unique way but when it comes to nursing moms one thing troubles most of us: we want to fast our obligatory fasts (instead of delaying them to some later period of the year or feeding others) but we also fear for our nursing baby’s nutrition. The concern is very legitimate and today I will try to address that by sharing my personal experience of last Ramadan with baby Zaynab.
So in Ramadan 2018, Zaynab was around 3 months and exclusively breastfed but alhamdulillah by the will of ALLAH and Zawji’s support I was able to fast the entire Ramadan.
Below are the few things I did alhamdulillah:
Trust ALLAH: Without any exaggeration it was a very hard decision, but just before Ramadan I got a feeling (from ALLAH) which made things easy for me. I came to the realization that at the end we can do anything we want but it’s ALLAH from whom the milk comes for our children. There have been times in history, when Muslimahs were starving due to wars or so but they still breastfed their children and alhamdulillah their children survived well. I strongly renewed my intention by believing: Allah is the provider and He will provide for our children.
Do Your Part: Food Intake – My main target was to drink a lot of water when I was not fasting and also to fill myself with nutritional stuff between iftaar and suhoor. I kinda skipped all the random food associated with Ramadan (a huge sacrifice as a desi born hehe). Also, three important things I focused on having daily were:
- Milk + oats ( + sugar as my personal preference) drink
Prioritize: Take Things Easy – I primarily focused on fasting, nursing and doing pretty basic household work. And that is something Zawji and I had a very clear conversation on before Ramadan, that if he wants to me fast then he will have to be quiet lenient with housework, to which alhamdulillah he agreed.
Keep it a Secret: Yes, you read it right. I kept it a secret. I did not want people to know I was fasting. I strongly feared evil eye. Matters as such are better kept between ones own self and ALLAH, rest to each is own.
One Day at a Time: While my intention was to fast entire Ramadan, I always told myself and Zawji that I will take one day at a time. If I see decrease in my milk then I may stop fasting for the sake of my child.
Dua Dua Dua: I kept making dua each day that ALLAH helps me to fast entire Ramadan and put barakah in my milk and alhamdulillah ALLAH helped.
NOTE: In no way am I imposing any of my ideas on anyone. Please do check with your doctor and see your health before deciding to fast. For many of us, we just need a good courage boost and support system and that’s what I have tried to play a role in.
May ALLAH allow us all to witness Ramadan this year and make the most out of it (aameen).
A post that might interest you Ramadan Goals of a Nursing Mom.