Forgive yourself oh mamas,
From A Mama to Mamas.
There are times, and there will be even more times, when you will be late on many tasks, you will mess up a lot, and you will not be able to achieve anything – at that moment let your perfectionist self forgive you.
Because if you don’t let your perfectionist self forgive you, then you will end up having resentment towards the time that you spend with your children…thinking you could have used it somewhere better. Well, no…if you spent your time with your children then there is nothing better you could have done with that time other than ibadah (which can also be done with kids).
No matter what your goals or ambitions are, don’t let them convince you that you are wasting your life. You are not. You are investing your life. You may achieve same goals in 24 or 34 years of age…it wouldn’t make much difference, other than the fact that you will be more wise and experienced in 34 than 24. But, the early years of your children’s lives will never come back. Once they are in their 15s they wouldn’t sit on your lap and ask you to read a book to them. Cherish these moments.
The goals and tasks that seem so important, don’t stress over them. If you are able to achieve those without killing the mother within you, then go ahead but don’t let them deprive you of enjoying your journey of motherhood. No matter what the tasks or goals are, dish-washing or becoming an author.
Forgive yourself for being selfish; for that long nap that you took while your child cried and went back to sleep, for that food that you first put in your mouth than your child’s, and for other such selfish moments.
Any of us sane mother wouldn’t leave her child crying when she is able to go and fulfill his/her need. But there are moments we are just helpless dead bodies on bed who may wake up on a cry but cannot get up. Many times we are so hungry that we are falling on the floor and in those times we need to first feed ourselves to be able to feed our children. So forgive yourself for those selfish moments.
Last but not least….
Forgive yourself for not being a perfect mother at times. Because trust me, you are the best mother your children could ever have.
No other has right to judge you and no other has authority to forgive you (obviously referring to humans only). Only you have the luxury to forgive yourself and let go of the guilt that many times haunts us as mothers.